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7 Oct 2013

Parenting: Building A Life Without Depression - Part 2

The sad thing is I’m hearing this message from many different people in a range of environments. I’ve interacted with school principals, teachers, parents and children, and they are all saying a very similar messages. For example, I met with a grade 11 student the other day. He’s had a rough start to life, due to some problems at home. This has also spilled over into school. He now goes to one of the fancy, rich private schools. This is one of those schools, where you make all your children’s problems disappear by throwing money at it… Despite the money, he says that as the children are getting older more and more of their internal issues are starting to come out. Amongst others, he told me a story of one of the girl. She’s the kind of girl that likes all the boys… and all the boys like her back, if you know what I mean. People later found out, that her father had raped her.

The caption in the image is a bit blurry. It says, "Tells everyone she has a threesome." and at the bottom "Gets angry when she hears rumors about her having a threesome." We might look at these funny pictures on the internet and judge these kinds of girls for being sluts (and other's for other things). If you found out that, she acted this way because her father raped her, how would you feel? If you found out that she got angry at the rumors because of her unresolved issues that she didn't know how to deal with, and the fact the people are calling her a slut is making it worse, would you still call her a slut?

I wrote an article on the topic of disciple before, about how people act out and display certain behaviors, because of internal problems. This is a prime example. Her unresolved emotions and beliefs towards men drove her to act in the destructive way she did. The point behind that article was there’s a reason why people act the way they do. Berating and smacking a child isn’t going to change the behavior, because it doesn’t deal with the root problem. It may mask the symptoms for a while, but that’s about the best you’ll get. Behavior changes when people express their feelings and believe they are heard.

In South Africa, almost 20% of the population suffers from depression. That’s just under one in five. So if it’s not you, find four people and it’s one of them. In women, it’s about one in four. We always need to view statistics with a pinch of salt though. They can never be one-hundred per cent accurate for various reasons. This is the trend at the moment, however. We are heading in that direction. In addition, this problem is not confined to South Africa. The World Health Organization estimates that by the year 2020, the leading cause of disability in the world will be depression. That’s how serious this is!

Parenting: Building A Life Without Depression - Part 1
Parenting: Building A Life Without Depression - Part 3
Parenting: Building A Life Without Depression - Part 4
Parenting: Building A Life Without Depression - Part 5
Parenting: Building A Life Without Depression - Part 6
Parenting: Building A Life Without Depression - Part 7


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