I show concerned parents who want to give their children the best start to life how to better understand their children.

3 Sep 2013

What books can do to improve us - Part 3

We have five senses: sight, hearing, taste, smell and touch. When using electronics, say watching TV, we can only properly engage with two of our senses: sight and hearing. This makes for a very dull and under stimulated existence; not the visceral living of which human beings are capable. In addition, we aren’t interacting with what to me are our two most important senses: smell and touch.

Smell is our oldest sense, our most primal. It is the sense that is most linked to memories. And memories are important because they tell us who we are. They give us our outlook on life. Most importantly, they are our identities. A world without smells is a world where it’s easy to forget who we are.

Touch: over the years, many people have written about love and its importance to humans. In the 1960’s the Beatles sang, “All you need is love.” Now, it might sound like a cliché, but the older I get the more and more I realize just how important messages like that are. I wrote a book (Through the Crimson Mirror) about my experiences growing up and the changes I’d like to see in the way parents raise their children today. In doing the research for my book, I interviewed many people from alcoholics to drug addicts to people who work with those in prison, etc. What I found is that in an overwhelming number of cases, whether the person turned out to be a criminal, a bully, even those who are bullied, those with mental illnesses, etc., if you look deep enough, there is usually a lack of love in their lives. It could be an inability to give, receive or express it, or all three. Often it starts with their parents.

The sad thing is, as I’ve explained above about the beliefs our society currently holds, often parents don’t realize that they aren’t loving their children correctly. Very persuasive marketing surreptitiously tells society that if they buy their children a Play Station 3 or the latest this or that, that’s love. Sadly, it’s not.

So, what does touch have to do with all this. Well, love is a feeling. Therefore, by definition, touch is our sense of love. Yes, technology will one day replicate the warmth and texture of a human hand. However, the more I learn, the more I realize there is something more to this world, and technology will never be able to replicate that. Nothing will ever come close to the comfort found in the simple laying of hands or the embrace of another human being. If this is what we are losing out with technology, we have to ask ourselves, is it really worth it?

What books can do to improve us as people - Part 1
What books can do to improve us as people - Part 2
What books can do to improve us as people - Part 4
What books can do to improve us as people - Part 5
What books can do to improve us as people - Part 6
What books can do to improve us as people - Part 7
What books can do to improve us as people - Part 8
What books can do to improve us as people - Part 9

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