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10 Aug 2013

Comments on Porn and ‘God’

Yesterday, some Jehovah's Witnesses were doing the round on my road. Since I was young, it was drilled into me to just hide when the Jehovah’s came a knocking. And I know my family aren’t the only ones who do similar... Unfortunately, I went up to get the post at just about the same time that they got to my gate. I was trapped. Fortunately, I have opened my mind a lot since the good ol days, and I respect and admire the Jehovah’s Witnesses for what they do. It can’t be easy. I may not agree with everything they say, but I can still respect them as people, and follow my own persona code: every single person on Earth wants the same basic things, to be loved and to be heard. This philosophy does not only apply to Jehovah’s by the way, I try to apply it to all people.

All that said, they offered me two of their magazines. A friend told me that their magazines were actually pretty good. They talk about issues that are topical and of moral value, not celebrity gossip and propaganda to which mainstream magazine readers as used to... The main topic of the mag on top of the pile was porn. Dum, dum, dum...

Guess what? The Jehovah’s Witnesses are against porn. Shock and horror. To a point, I agree with them. Both watching and making porn, aren’t the most moral things one can do on this green Earth. But try telling that to a 16 year old boy today. Let’s face it if a teenager wants to look at some boobies, he’s going to find a way. You can jump on your head or do a cartwheel, but they’ll make a plan.

This where it gets interesting. I got to thinking, if all this stuff is so bad for us, and if there is this omnipotent being out there, why does he allow it to exist? The only thing I can come up with is acceptance. It’s there as a test to us to see if we can accept those who do fall. What do you have to say about that?

Let me give you an example. I read Sex on the Moon the other day by Ben Mezrich. The story revolves around Thad Roberts. It starts with him being banished from his family—his very religious Mormon family—for sleeping with his girlfriend before marriage. I don’t remember all the details, but when a Mormon man reaches a certain age, he is sent away with other of age boys to learn, I don’t know, the secrets of life. At this camp, Thad heard some of the other guys confess that they had slept with their girlfriends. Thad had held onto the secret for so long that it made him toss and turn at night. After hearing other come clean—only to their peers—Thad decided to confess to the main-man of the retreat. This got him kicked out and his parents were called. They then banished him from the family. So, for his honesty, everyone who was supposed to love him unconditionally, guide him through life, and follow religious principles of forgiveness, turned their backs on him. Well if that is fanaticism, then I don’t know what is...

Was that not a test to see if Thad’s family would still love him, even though he broke the rules? Is that not the ultimate test: to love someone unconditionally, even if they do things we don’t want them to do? It was consensual, so he did not force her. So was it really worth banishment? Seeing as parenting is my thing, I guess I should relate this to parenting; well can you love you child even if they don’t do what you want them to?

Just a little background. I’m not actually Christian. I don’t know if a god is out there. But certainly, my mind wonders over to that side of life. I dip into that pool of knowledge, and I’m not against the concept. In addition, I have some different views on sex and porn—very scientific and researched views, which are in my second book, which I’ll publish if I ever get the money.

What do you guys think of all this? And please remember, these are all question, I don’t have all the answer to the questions of the universe...

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2 comments:

  1. Hi Daniel:

    Without getting terribly didactic, I believe the answer to your question resides best with the apostle Paul. In his letter to the Corinthians, he wrote, "All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable." That is to say, God puts a lot of things on earth, both good and bad. He gives us our free will to choose, and His hope, of course, is that we will choose whatever is pure, right, etc. Even though we have the option of choosing anything we want, not everything is "profitable" for us, morally, mentally, psychologically, physically, or emotionally. After hearing from several people who suffered from addiction to pornography, I have personally determined that it is detrimental. Others may agree or disagree, but rest assured, God allows things on earth that may be "lawful," but that doesn't make them good for us. I am not a Jehovah's Witness either, though I grew up around some who were. For more on the "lawful vs. profitable" paradigm, please visit my site and blog:
    http://poetjohndavisjr.com/2013/02/24/lawful-and-profitable/

    Thanks for this thought-provoking post.

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  2. Thanks John.
    I appreciate the time you took to write your comment.
    You make a good point.
    I'll have a look at your article.

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