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8 Apr 2013

Is Love a Fairytale?

Guest post by local newspaper sub-editor Debi Blake.

Do boys and men grow up believing the fairytale myth too? It starts with being told apart in the pram by being dressed in pink or blue.

Girls are then brought up on fairytales which inevitably end up with the girl being rescued and swept away by her handsome prince on his white horse.

When girls become women there are the inevitable "chick-flicks"...and very few of them end unhappily ever after - on screen.

So there is always the not-so-subtle message that a girl/woman needs to find her handsome prince otherwise she is severely lacking.

But do boys and men "receive" that same message? I suppose not too many of them go off to see the chick-flicks unless dragged along by their significant other.

They would rather indulge in the violent "he-man" action movies with powerful, macho men in the leading roles. So is the subtle message being sent out there one of if you're male you need to be rough and tough?

If the man is that rare breed who does enjoy pursuits other than scrumming down with other sweaty men on the sports field or elbowing each other and laughing loudly in the pub...he will probably be found seeking entertainment of a more cerebral sort.

Where did this all start? Who was the inspiration behind The Brothers Grimm's folklore? Who decided that the only way a girl could be worthy was if she was whisked away by her knight in shining armour?

And so it continues today...

And it's not only in the movies. When it comes to reading it was the fairytales told or read to us over and over again at bedtime...(subtle brainwashing? Not!)

Then girls moved on to the famous Mills and Boon paperbacks...and let us not forget Barbara Cartland's productions...where every heroine was a simpering, fluttering-eyelash damsel in distress who would inevitably end up in some muscly, at first arrogant and then noble male's arms as the final page was turned.

And now in the 21st century we have the infamous "50 Shades of Grey". I have not read these books, but am led to understand that it is again a man being the dominator over the submissive female.

Is there anything wrong with a woman being a tad more assertive in society? Does it intimidate a man if the girl/woman makes the first move? Why do women get pitying looks (mostly from other women) if they do so?

How is it that the fabled Amazon women and a few other rare tribes accomplished this and in their society it is accepted that they are the stronger sex?

Why is it that there has to be a "stronger" and/or "weaker" sex? Why can't man and woman be equal to each other in relationships? Will we ever evolve to that space or will the 50 Shades of Grey turn the clock back to women having to be submissive again?

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