I show concerned parents who want to give their children the best start to life how to better understand their children.

16 Oct 2012

Parenting talk - part 4

Parenting talk based on my book, Through the Crimson Mirror, today.

Link to
Parenting talk - part 1
Parenting talk - part 2
Parenting talk - part 3
Parenting talk - part 5

I touch on subjects like communication. Some people say, “We have all the tools we need within ourselves.” I just about agree with that. If you ask most people, they say, the secrets to life, success and happiness is friends, connections with other human beings, and having someone who will listen to you. However, learning these skills has taken a backseat to degrees and moneymaking skills.

Look at Japan. Second biggest economy in the world. Very efficient in everything they do. Brilliant at maths, studying and working. Lots of money. Lots of wealth. And the highest suicide rate in the world.

Look at America. Largest economy in the world. How many terrorist attacks have they suffered, bombings and shootings. Remember the Dark Knight massacre. He sent letters to psychologists at his university, asking for help before he went on his murderous rampage.

The point I’m making is, it seems as though, as people we have forgotten to just sit down and listen to one another.

We all say, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” If we believe that, and after years of experience in the “real world,” I do; then doesn’t it makes sense to give our children the best possible model for meeting people and building relationships? The sad things is, it seems as time goes on communication is getting worse and that’s because we’re not actively teaching it to children.

I also talk about education. When we mention education, most people think of school and university only. However, life is about so much more than just that. What about learning life skills? Things like emotions and how to deal with them. What about learning how to fail?

We all know Richard Branson: rich, famous, loud and extroverted. He wasn’t always like that though. Richard started out life very nervous and afraid. One day while driving home, his mother told him to get out the car and find his own way home. He’d have to talk to people, try, fail, and then try again, until he got it right. After several hours, he made it home. Now this is a little extreme, and I’m not saying we can just let our children walk the streets these days until they learn a lesson. However, the essence is that his mother prepared him to fail. She told him to have a backup plan, and that he’d have to try until he got it right. Look at where he is today. Do you think learning how to fail, and how to prepare for failure, helped? Of course it did, and it’s his mother who played an instrumental part in learning those lessons.

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  1. I really think tough love works, and you can't possibly learn anything in life unless you fail:)

  2. Indeed, we all have to fail now and again.
    But more importantly, we need to learn to come back from that failure.