I show concerned parents who want to give their children the best start to life how to better understand their children.

15 Oct 2012

Parenting talk - part 3

Hello all
and Happy Monday!

Continuing with the parenting talk I've been releasing per day, here is the third part.

Link to
Parenting talk - part 1
Parenting talk - part 2
Parenting talk - part 4
Parenting talk - part 5

I was listening to 5fm the other day. Gareth Cliff was promoting an event where he was dj-ing. Clubs pay him to create hype for these events and tell the public how out of control they are going to be and how wasted everyone will be. The sad thing is these are the messages that children hear on a daily basis.

I interviewed a psychiatrist while researching my book. She told me that to compensate for these shortcomings today, the medical community has had to raise the age limit for adolescence from 18 to 30. This means that children are living in this rocky and unstable, extended state of adolescence for another 12 years of their lives before progressing into full adulthood. This has many far-reaching ramifications. In the end, it’s the children who are really suffering today, and aren’t learning what they need to in order to cope with life in the real world. In my opinion, that’s why many are trying drugs, alcohol and sex at younger and younger ages.

The biggest problem with all this dysfunction is often we don’t see the effects today; we see the effects in 10, 15 years down the line. The reality is more and more children are finding themselves in increasingly dangerous situations and it’s the parents who are willing to learn and change today, that can make a difference tomorrow.

Many people say that we have all the answers within us, along with all the skills we need to change. The problem with growing up in dysfunction is you may now know its dysfunction. And if you don’t know what you don’t know, what are you going to do to change it? Nothing, because you don’t know… And that’s the reality: some people aren’t changing for the better. Look at alcohol consumption statistics, abortions, the number of drug addicts; they are all on the rise. The other problem is that dysfunction has so many faces today and has almost become commonplace: divorced parents, parents who work all the time, alcoholic parents, emotionally distant parents, etc.

So what is my book about? My book is about me, and my experience of growing up, and all the lessons I wished I had learned while growing up, all from the perspective of a child. Communication is supposed to be a two way street, and for a long time society adopted the attitude of “children are too be seen and not heard.” Unfortunately, we are seeing the ripple effects of that now. So, that’s why I’ve written everything from the perspective of a child, and not a parent. I want to share the voice of a child, in a way that many people can understand and relate to.

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  1. Some of these reasons are why we chose to homeschool. It's not about overprotecting but the opposite. We wanted to have the biggest input in our children's lives in their vulnerable years. We wanted to share their day and be with them as they grew. We wanted them to have more of a integral role in the family and community.

  2. Thanks for that Sonia.
    I've asked people questions about home schooling before on www.voiceboks.com
    Maybe try answer this for me: what do you do about the social aspect of your children's life, while they are home schooled?
    Home schooling isn't really a big thing here in South Africa, so it's interesting to get some information.